We dream of co-creating space that supports and elevates faeries with diverse, overlapping identities — race, gender, class, and ability. Bring your tender heart in all its magical manifestations.
This is a mindful, present, intentional substance-free gathering (no alcohol or mind-altering drugs — the venue requires it, and we want presence with each other).
A brand-new Northern gathering. Lakes are promised. Queer beings co-creating radical, alternative living — contribution welcome, never compulsory.
Heart circles
Share and listen from the heart. Co-created, confidential spaces where faeries speak without reply or debate — only witnessing. Optional, and a deep way into the room.
Food
We cook and eat together. Lunch and dinner teams form each day. Meals are vegetarian with vegan options; local, seasonal, organic where we can. Name dietary needs on booking and on the kitchen board. Fridge and freezer space is limited.
Co-creation
If you see something that needs doing, why not be the one to do it — dishes, tables, sweeping, wood, and more.
K’no’w Talent Show
Non-competitive evening performance. Zero talent required. Bring music for your act if you need it.
The auction
Goods and services raise money for NOTAFLOF. Bring clothes, crafts, plants, massage, tarot — and name cultural origins honestly if you donate culturally significant items.
Love Temple
Intimacy, play, touch, and consent — open to adult faeries of all gender identities, sexualities, and anatomies. Opened with a boundaries ceremony. Volunteers welcome to set up, tidy, and take down; soft furnishings gratefully received.
Nudity and sex: Sex-positive and body-positive indoors. Be mindful of shared spaces — take sexual connection to the Love Temple rather than bedrooms or common rooms. Consent before any touch. We’ll open the gathering with conversation on this.
Bring your own magic
Workshops, rituals, dancing, drumming, theatre, music, art, games, drag, silence, chaos — if you bring it, scribble it on the schedule.
What to bring
Essentials
Sleeping bag, pillows, bed linen
Towel and toiletries (venue supplies neither towels)
Torch and batteries
Clothes and footwear for sun, rain, heat, and cold
Earplugs and eye-mask if sleep is precious
Flask or water bottle
Any special foods you need
Medication / allergy tablets
Slippers for indoors
Nice to have
Dress-up clothes, make-up, accessories to share
Decorations, soft lighting, soft furnishings
Auction items or services
Cash for auction / cash payment
Altar offerings
Safer-sex supplies for the Love Temple
Art supplies, instruments, performance music
Your favourite mug
Pets: well-behaved companions may be welcome — write to iyaluv@proton.me first.
Main meeting room with wood-burning stove, cosy chairs, large dining table and pews. Adjacent small meeting room. Kitchen in the corner of the main room (cooker, hob, kettle, microwave, fridge, freezer) plus a small drinks kitchen in the schoolroom.
Sleeping
No separate bedrooms — we sleep together across two larger rooms and one smaller. Foam mattresses in the large rooms; three raised beds for access needs. Bring your own sleeping bag, linen, and pillows.
Camping
Limited flat spots in the burial ground (about five). Vans and campers discouraged — parking is tight on a country lay-by; save spaces for cars and day trips.
Facilities
Two toilets (one ensuite to schoolroom; one across the burial ground)
One shower in the stables
No wifi; mobile coverage variable
Leave indoor spaces clean — a clear-up checklist will help
Getting here
Address: Pardshaw Quaker Centre, Cockermouth, Cumbria CA13 0SP
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Public transport
Train to Penrith, then X4/X5 bus to Cockermouth (~1h 15m). Pardshaw is about four miles south — a short drive; cycling possible; walking not recommended (busy road, no footpath). Nearest stop: Oakhurst Garden Centre on the X5. Other stations: Carlisle, Workington, Maryport.
Parking
Please ride-share or use public transport. Space for about four small cars by the front door. EV charging via 13A plug (bring your adaptor) — contribute for electricity used.
Gathering finance & global solidarity
Affordable venue chosen so local fae can come — and so we can stand in solidarity more widely. Venue ~£900 for six nights; food budget ~£8 per faerie per day. With buffer, break-even around £125–£150 depending on numbers.
£10 – £150Supported
£150 – £250Comfortable
£250 – £322Solidarity
Principles: NOTAFLOF, GAYABAGS (Give As You Are Able But Always Give Something), ADAFAE (Additional Donations And Finance Accepted Enthusiastically).
Global solidarity
On the booking form you can opt to share a percentage of your pledge with an organisation supporting queer people facing persecution. We’ll choose together at the gathering — bring ideas.
Payments
Pay when your spot is confirmed (instalments possible — ask). Bank transfer reference: LUV26 + YOUR FAERIE NAME
Co-operative Bank · Faerie-UK · 08-92-99 · 65488214
IBAN GB75 CPBK 08929965 4882 14 · BIC CPBK GB22
Cash at venue or PayPal for international fees — tell us if needed.
Accessibility
Three raised beds for access needs. Paths and the burial-ground toilet involve outdoor walking. Tell us needs early so we can plan. Substance-free space may support some nervous systems; dorm-style sleeping may not suit everyone — ask if unsure.
Clarity & consent
From the department for Faeries Using Communication Kindly (F.U.C.K.): consent is informed, uncoerced, sober enough, and withdrawable. Silence, nudity, drunk, or asleep is not consent — only a clear yes. Touch must be enjoyed both ways. Welfaeries are present; know who they are. If “no” is ignored, shout for help.
Safe space
Faeriespace is not a guaranteed safe space. We strive for inclusive, welcoming, healing room — and we are still learning. You may meet challenging people or situations. We help where we can; we cannot take responsibility for everyone. Consider carefully whether this gathering is right for you.
Prioritising gender minority and global majority
Six spaces are reserved for faeries who identify as gender minority and/or global majority — toward decentering historically dominant groups in our community (often white cis gay men). Self-definition on the form; no proof required. Register early if you can so we can plan. We also welcome low-income northern faeries as a soft priority when allocating places.